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If you have ever tried to meet new people and find potential dates online you surely have encountered ‘free dating’. What exactly does free dating mean, you may ask.

Almost all dating sites in the Internet offer free dating services but is it really for free? Usually, these online dating sites let you post your profile along with thousands of other individuals. You can also interact with other individuals in the site through emails, instant messages and forums.

However, most of the additional features of these dating sites comes at a cost. If you wish to avail of these features you will be asked to upgrade your account or pay for a subscription. That doesn′t sound like free dating to me.

Real free dating gives you freedom.

Free dating lets you get in touch with exciting and interesting potential romantic partners and friends without the hassles of paying a fee just to search a database of profiles. Free dating lets you take advantage of the latest technologies that the Internet offers. After all, online dating is meant to be quicker, easier and better than traditional methods of finding a date such as going to bars, meeting someone in a cafe or at work, perhaps.

Real free dating lets you find your match quicker

We all know how hard it is to meet someone special who shares the same interests and outlook we have. Unless you are some gigolo or bombshell, finding a date - a special date - can be very frustrating. However, with free dating, it is easier and quicker to find your match. There are innovative alternatives to traditional online dating sites - those hat let you find a potential romantic partner or friend without having to sift through hundreds of profiles looking for that special date.

Imagine a dating site that directly links you to a community of singles looking for romance online. You wouldn’t have to pay membership fees every month just to keep using this service to meet new people.

If you know the feeling when you’re just about to find that special someone, then read on. Free dating - one that gives you freedom to find potential romantic dates without worrying about monthly fees and other hassles - is now a reality.

Free dating brings a whole new level to the online dating world with its exciting and hottest technologies on the net. Now, you can use the fast and popular sites to find that interesting, exciting romantic date and enjoy a easy way to meet a romantic partner as well as new friends. Enhance your social life when you connect with people of the same interests.

You can instantly communicate with your new friends and connect with a huge singles community. What’s more, dating sites offers total security, privacy, safety and give your romantic and social life a new spark.

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Looking for the right dresses for your Bridesmaids? Here are a few helpful tips on how to find the perfect ones!! When you go looking for the ideal dresses for your bridesmaids, you will realize just how challenging the task is. Choosing a bridesmaid’s dress is a matter of delicate negotiation, and finding a particular dress style and color for your bridesmaids can be challenging and difficult when various opinions are involved. Before you set out to accomplish this difficult, though pleasurable task, take a minute to read this article. You may find the following tips helpful in finding those dresses.

First and foremost, have a mental picture of your whole wedding day. Think of how many bridesmaids you want, and how you would like to see them dressed. Their appearance should not only complement your personality but enhance your stature in such a manner that you stand out among them (without appearing conspicuous). Then, think of each bridesmaid individually and visualize what would suit them and flatter their looks.

Put yourself in their shoes. While shopping for your bridesmaid dresses consider whether or not you would wear the dress before buying them. Make sure the dress will look good on all those who will be wearing them. You want the dress style to compliment each bridesmaid, and the perfect one should highlight both her strengths and conceal her weaknesses.

Your bridesmaids are individuals in their own right. Don’t make the mistake of making them look alike. In other words, don’t think all your bridesmaids have to be dressed exactly the same. It is common today to pick a color that you want your bridesmaids to be in. Don’t worry so much about the style of all the dresses being the same. This way each bridesmaid can wear a dress that complements her shape and shows off her figure. And, put together, it will be a harmonious picture.

You must understand that though being asked to be a bridesmaid is an honor, it can also be very expensive. So, be considerate and communicate with your friends about a dress budget they can afford or whether or not you plan to pay for their dresses. Sometimes there is someone who can make the dresses instead of buying them, which could save the bridesmaids a lot of money.

Always focus on the whole picture. Don’t try to make your bridesmaids look ridiculous so you’ll stand out. You want your friends to look stunning in their own way and compliment you so you’ll have gorgeous pictures and lasting memories.

It’s a good idea to have a brainstorming session with your bridesmaids. Give them a chance to express their opinion about what they will and won’t wear. It can be very advantageous to look over bridal magazines to see what styles appeal to you and them. Once a style and color of dress have been decided, plan a shopping date. If possible, take everyone who will be wearing the dresses.

If you have out-of-town maids, be sure to include them as well. You can send them pictures of the dresses or direct them to a website that has the dresses you like and get their feedback. They can look for the dresses themselves or have you pick up a dress in their size for them.

Finally, make sure that your bridesmaids try out the dresses before they wear them on your wedding day.

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TIP #1 - Three Basic Attitudes Which Form a Golden Key in All Human Relationships if Practiced and Lived: Every woman wants, unconsciously yearns for, three basic attitudes from the man she will love. But for that matter, every human being needs and deserves and will grow in power when he receives these feelings from another person. The formula is: Give a woman you desire faith, acceptance and respect. Believe in her, trust her, find the good, beautiful and uniquely admirable within her. Search for it. It is always there!

Accept her as she is. This does not mean accepting her pretensions, false fronts or unrealistic goals and dreams. But accept her as she is deep down in her own best and most natural self. Respect her completely in your motives, manners, speech, actions, plans. If you can truly develop and cultivate these attitudes in yourself, the most desirable lovelies in the world will be eagerly available to you!

TIP #2 - Get Your Circle of Friends and Acquaintances to Help: This, often takes nerve, but is very effective. Ask all your friends, acquaintances, associates, relatives, and neighbors to give you the names, addresses and phone numbers, if not direct introductions, to any and every single, young woman that know. Then call them up or write them, introduce yourself, start a conversation and ask for a date.

Be friendly, warm and informal as you can manage. Try it with persistence. Don’t get discouraged if you flop five dozen times. By the time you are starting on your sixty-first, you will be getting great results!

TIP #3 - Individual Differences…Every Man is Attractive to Some Women: Both men and women who might be considered unattractive to the average person succeed in attracting and winning highly desirable mates every day, everywhere. Your own experience will suggest many such cases. Taste and preference in love is infinite.

Here is an important fact for you. Believe it and act on it. There is no man who would not be attractive and desirable to at least some women, including some gorgeous hot & sexy women who would knock your eyes out, and who you ordinarily…though quite foolishly…wouldn’t dare to approach!

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In order to have a successful relationship, you have to work for it. This involve time and attention. Many couple, however, do not know this and the surefire to a break up is when they just leave it to fate.

Identifying the obstacles or problems in your relationship before it get worse can help you to revive your love life and restart the fire.

Below are some of the most common obstacles and problems that can affect the relationship.

1. Irritable Habits

This usually happen when the couple started to live together, or it could be in the case of a newly married couple. After living together for some times, one of the partners may discover some ‘bad’ habits and find it intolerable. Though it may not difficult to change, it really takes a willing hearts and soul to commit. Instead he/she should view it as a personal challenge and progress. On the other hand, the partner who initiated the change should be tactful and supportive in requesting for the change.
Though this may be a small issue, it could lead to some unhappiness and quarrel and will affects the relationship.

2. Take things for granted

The relationship may come to a point in life that the couple takes each other for granted. They no longer appreciate each other’s effort and deem it as a ‘must’ that his/her partner have to do it for them. In order to nurture your love life, you need to show appreciation to your partner. Simple words like “Thank you” works like magic. By doing it, it motivates and inspire your partner to want to please you more. Appreciation is among the top ten needs for most people.

3. Lack of communication

No relationship can survive without communicating with each other. When you stop talking to each other, you will feel distant and slowly an invisible wall will come between both of you, slowly separating you. To prevent this from happening, you need to communicate with each other every day.
When you are communicating, you feel connected and a rapport is build.

Communication is the most important aspect of your love life. Communication can be in the form of verbal or non verbal. For instance, maintaining eye contact, nodding, padding or hugging. You can also send a greeting email or send a short message via hand phone to keep in touch with your partner while you are away for work. Be open to you to your partner and listen.

4. Criticisms

Criticisms can be very insulting and humiliating. It could hurt the partner emotionally especially if he/she has a low self esteem. NEVER ever use criticisms in your relationship. Choose the words you speak with great care as words hastily offered are not easily retrieved. When the relationship is strained, it can sink very quickly. Give respect to your love one.

5. Career minded

People nowadays place great importance on materialism, thus many have sacrifices their marriage or family for the sake of career. While having a stable job and income is vital, one should not neglect his/her marriage or family. Learn to manage your time and set priority. Relationship must always come first, then your career.

6. Dishonesty

Besides infidelity, it also includes not disclosing one’s feelings. If you do not
express your feeling and keep everything to yourself, your partner will never know how you feel. By bottling all the unhappiness to yourself, it can also lead to chronic diseases. You have to learn to trust yourself and your partner. A good foundation in a healthy love relationship is built on trust and trust must be earned.

Remember, a relationship that needs repair demands having more time and attention for each other. Hence give enough time and attention to your partner to living harmoniously.

Yenn Kuah is happily married with three lovely daughters. Like many other couples, she had also experience many ups and down in her 12 years of marriage.
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For most daters, one of the main reasons of the first date is to get to the second, third, and fourth date, etc etc etc. I’m sure you know how the script ends. Sometimes it’s harder to think about all the things you want to say or do on your first date, however, if you want to ensure that you never have a second date, do these things.

Show up late for your first date…and don’t call to inform your date
It’s inevitable that at one time or another you’re going to be running late for a date. This is more apparent if you live in a larger metropolitan city like New York or LA where traffic is notoriously bad. Running late for a date is a possibility that most people understand. However, you’ll find very few people understanding of your being late to a date and not calling to inform them that you’re going to be late. Usually nothing starts a date off worse, or ends a date quicker than arriving late without calling. 10-15 minute is the acceptable ‘fashionably late’ time period. Anything over that warrants a call.

Arriving with no plans for the evening
“I thought we would be spontaneous tonight.” Let’s not and say we did! That’s what your date will be thinking the whole time while they’re steaming about how ill prepared you are for the evening. It’s not unreasonable for your date to have the expectation that you planned the evening. After all you’re the one who asked them out on a date. It’s usually a good idea to make sure you have a properly planned evening for the date and not leave things to chance at the last minute. At the last minute you’ll often find that restaurant had no available reservations, the movie times didn’t match, and the ticket to the event has already been sold out.

Trying to advance to ‘coupledom’ to quickly
It’s just a first date, not a binding agreement to a lifelong of activities and matching clothes. There’s no sense in talking about all the things you can do together as a couple because you’ve yet to spend enough time together to decide if you want another date, let alone if coupledom is right for you. Just like you have to learn to crawl before you walk, and walk before you run, you have to learn to go on a successive amount of dates before you can begin to talk about being a couple…or sharing food. It’s still me and you…not we and us.

Talking or comparing your date to your ex’s
Nothing will get the ire of your date more than if you compare them to your previous relationships. Behind that polite laugh and fake smile is a cold veneer just hoping you’ll compare them to your ex again so they have permission to rip out your tongue with your fork. Anger aside, lamenting about your ex is in poor taste and poor judgment. There is a reason why you call them your ex and in its best to keep that part of your life in the past and enjoy the person in front of you. Even if they don’t laugh at your jokes like your ex did!

Making your date the butt of every joke

Everyone likes a good laugh, but not necessarily at their own expense…all the time. If you’re the type of person that enjoys telling a joke or two, remember the object of a joke is to have your date laughing with you and not about you. So it’s always good to make fun of yourself first, before you attempt to make fun of your date.

Forgetting your date’s name

There’s certainly nothing wrong with informing your date that you had an enjoyable evening with them…and there’s nothing wrong with thanking Sue and Steve for a great date; as long as, Sue and Steve are your dates names. In your busy dating schedule it’s possible to confuse the Wednesday date with the Friday one or vice versa. Certainly if you’ve had too much to drink, alcohol could have played a part. For whatever the reason, forgetting your dates name is a great way to leave an impression. A ‘definitely not ever again’ impression. Word association has been known to help the name remembering impaired.

No call no-show

Of all the dating faux pas you can do, this one is the grand daddy of them all. The ultimate classless thing that you can do to ensure that you won’t get a second date is to pull a no call no-show before the date. Everyone should operate under a certain level of dating courtesy (or decency some would say) to inform your date if you’re unable to make it for whatever reason. The only thing that should preclude you from calling your date to inform them that you won’t be there is an emergency, accident or death of you or a loved one. Nemo the goldfish whose floating on the fish tank doesn’t count. In the instance your death, your date will certainly have to forgive you for that.

About the author: Obi aka The Relationship Guy, provides insightful, common sense, witty, and some times sarcastic articles on love, dating, and relationships. His forthcoming book, ‘The Blueprint of Love’ goes into detail about the game of love. You can read more articles and get more information about the book by going to: theblueprintoflove.com theblueprintoflove.com You can also read his blog on married life called: Marriage 101: Lessons Learned in the First Year of Marriage

It is not uncommon for men to feel trapped in their own life, especially not when it comes to either identifying or discovering new aspects in their sexuality. And getting out of the trap may not always be easy, especially not if your spouse is not open to this. Simply because getting out of the trap - which is not (although frequently identified as) the same as a mid-life crisis - may bring about some drastic shifts in your life. For both of you, actually.

The most blatent example is the situation where a married men “suddenly” discovers he is either gay or bisxual. This is neither sudden, nor a discovery, but in fact the men in question making room in his head for other, new ideas that he may have suppressed (conciously or not) for a long time. And this does not exactly happen in the area of sexual inclination - but also in other sexually related areas, such as discovering or identifying BDSM-emotions, crossdressing or simply discovering that there are other women as well and that there may be room in your life (and heart) for more than one.

This “life trap” - which is a very typical MALE thing - is something that has not attracted a lot of attention yet. However, it is fair to say that it can be compared to the situationof the woman who, after having raised children, wants to return to an active economic or social life and finds she’s way behind in many developments and may not be able to do what she actually wants as a result of previous choices in life (this has as little to do with the meno-pause as the male trap has to do with mid-life crisis, even though all these events may happen more or less in the same period in your life). Both men and women will not be able to escape the trap without dramatic choices in their lives.

It doesn’t always have to be dramatic - largely depending on your personal situation. Quite a few people “escape” the trap as a result of other changes in their lives, such as finding a new role and destiny in life though being grandparents, or picking up the study you always wanted to do, or career changes, which - especially for men - are likely to happen between 40 and 50. If you are eligeable for a top-management or board position, it will be around that age. To others however it will be a problem, especially if the trap either is directly related to your sexuality or has a large impact on it.

The strong defense wall

From the male point of view - which is what we are talking about here - the first thing you are likely to run into, is the HUGE defense wall your partner will build up, especially when the “trap” has sexual implecations. Most men, even trying to discuss such subjects, at some point, will have heard the “I am not good enough” argument at some point - and frequently more than once. In lots of cases that and the sound of a slamming front door will also be the last thing they hear, because that is where the relationship ends.

While the men feels he’s (trying to be) honest about himself, his partner will feel betrayed and frequently “dumped” and communication is difficult if not entirely impossibe - for a long while and possibly forever. And since the “trap” is not something that has so far been identified very well, finding help or solutions is next to impossible. The two of you will have to sort it out by yourself, one way or another.

This is the time when “affairs” start to happen or when “the internet″ comes in - secret virtual meetings in chat rooms, in Internet clubs and many other fora. No, we emphasize it again, THIS IS NOT MID-LIFE CRISIS! It is feeling trapped in your own choices that may not always have been your own and it has nothing to do with hormonal changes or the fact that you are losing hair or virility - even though all that may happen at the same time. The life of most men simply is a long chain of compromizes and choices hat were right at the time but that may turn against him later. Carreer choices, partner choices, financial choices and many others. His prime - self-imposed as a result of social programming - responsibility has always been making money, building and - even more importantly - supporting his family and now that he has done all that he feels he has lost old friends and missed opportunities and discovers that there is more to life than a carreer, financial security and a family to support. His first girlfriend starts to haunt his dreams again, together with old ideas, fishing or hiking trips, the good old sports days and frequently (if he has such a background) the “happy days with his buddies in the army″). All of that of course in a happy and rosy-red perspective.

Looking for footholds

What he is doing is looking for footholds. A combination of three - very important - things:

1. (re)assurance of his choices

2. openings for new possibilities

3. (re)inventing himself

And while he feels alone (since probably no-one will (re)assure him when it comes to his life choices), he feels trapped by the situation he is in - unable to leave his relationship (because he BOTH cannot without severe consequences and probably does not want to), unable to leave his carreer (again because of servere personal and economic consequences and probably not just for himself), physically unable to pick things he used to do (because he’s out of condition) and unable to make room for himself (because of the many social, economical and family obligations AND the defense wall).

So, what to do? He’ll look for footholds. He eventually probably WILL make room for himself and to him that neither feels like betrayal nor as weakness. In fact, it is very likely he will feel this as an important achievement (in other words the “room″ may be cheating on his wife, but it doesn’t feel like cheating, it feels like well-deserved personal space).

It doesn’t make any sense - if the “trap” is sexually related, regardless in what way - to come up with solutions like: take up a hobby, find an education or go have a beer with your friends. And he isn’t exactly Al Bundy either. He feels trapped and wants himself and the trap(s) to be taken seriously, quite often regardless the consequences (in other words: divorce).

The long and painful road

But it gets worse. The trap will become a trap by itself. Hardly any man WANTS a divorce, because it goes against everything he has been taught, everything that has been implanted and as a result anything he (thinks he) stands for. To the vast majority of men divorce equals (self)betrayal. So now that he identified the fact that he feels trapped and tries to find a way out or at least discuss it and find understanding, the trap in itself becomes a new, extra trap.

The only way out - except for the drastic methods, such as divorce - is through a long and painful process of communication. A process that is painful and difficult for both partners - however, also inevitable. If he feels trapped, there will be pain (either the pain of the divorce, the pain of a drastic carreer change or the pain of the communication itself). There is no way to avoid it - if the trap is there: face it!

Is there any general advice? No, not much - except maybe the assumption that the one-on-one, ever lasting, happy couple situation is probably not for everybody. In fact, modern divorce statistics show that the “happily ever after” are in fact a minority and may soon be reduced to a “happy few″. On top of that - a lot of aspects of modern society (technological changes, the economic rat race, double income families, the information-overflow and such) only come on top of that and the 1960-slogan “Stop the world, I want to get off” is probably more accurate than ever before.

At the same time: the “traditional relationship″ (which in fact isn’t that “traditional” at all, but merely an invention that is only 100 years old) is rapidly replaced by a multitude of relationships: gay, lesbian, non-married couples, poly-armory, living groups, deliberate singles, you name it. Meaning that when it comes to the view of what “a relationship″ should be is probably (quite rapidly) changing. Some sociologists even argue that the baby-boomers and former hippies only now start to build the type of relationships the stood for back in the 1960s and 70s. Only history will tell if they are right or wrong. Fact is that there are changes and that, if you feel trapped, you’ll probably have to do something about it.

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Adult dating in the context of this article refers to a date or a relationship (be it in real life or virtual) where sex or physical gratification is the main purpose of the union. The no strings attached adult dating industry has been booming in recent years, it is anonymous, risky and offers instant satisfaction without the need for a long term relationship.

Many people have fulfilled their widest fantasies by taking advantage of adult dating sites via the Internet. In most cases this would simply be impossible without a platform that introduced like minded people. Many sites specialise in certain areas of adult dating, or indeed specific sexual areas, it is possible to click your way and find willing participants for any of the following:

- No strings attached sexual partner
- 3 in a bed or group sex partners
- Photo exchange partners
- Phone sex, email sex or cyber sex partners

If you are new to adult dating, you maybe surprised to learn that a number of your potential partners are married or already in long term relationships with other people. This is quite common throughout the adult dating industry; this is because it is most often not a relationship that is on offer but physical kicks. Often these types of people will have different priorities in life, so it is best not to judge too quickly. In some cases, a married couple will take part in adult dating together; some will do so with permission from their partners, while many will be actively deceptive.

One of the main differences in the adult dating world is the mind set and attitude. It is one of free love, sexual experimentation and risk. This is not an ideal scenario for a lot of people, so they are quick to judge. What they fail to consider is that adult dating takes place between two consenting adults, just because what they do does not fit with their expectations of social responsibility it does not mean it is wrong.

Its interesting to theorise why people join an adult dating community. I suspect that a lot of it is simply about sex. In same cases, it may be difficult to find partners who will agree or take part in particular fantasies you want to try. Ive read that married men often join because their wife will not perform certain sexual activities with them; on the other hand there are a lot of frustrated wives who jump at the chance of receiving sexual satisfaction.

In most cases, adult dating is harmless fun. As long as it is consenting and responsible, where is the harm in it?

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You’re walking down the street somewhere, or shopping at a mall, or sitting at a restaurant or bar, and then you see her. That beautiful woman you’ve had your eye on since who knows when. You feel your heart racing, your pulse pick up, your eyes beginning to widen. You approach her and attempt to say something witty, but you become tongue-tied. Eventually, you find the words to say and gush over her appearance, telling her how beautiful she is, how you would like to get to know her, etc. She gives you a half-interested look, says thank you, and politely brushes you off. You may wonder to yourself, why did she just blow me off so rudely like that?

For most attractive women, this scenario is a common occurence. Men continually come on them every day, even when they are not consciously doing so. Most people in our society have been conditioned since birth that attractive people are special and deserve to be treated differently from your average person. Therefore, men usually attempt to go out of their way to attract beautiful women in extravagant ways, like buying flashy clothes, jewellery, fancy cars, or other expensive gadgets, or they spend hours in the gym working on their bodies so they can attract that really gorgeous female. For some of these men, it may initially attract these women, but the women later become disenchanted with these antics and usually end up dumping these same men.

So why do beautiful women act so rude to most men? And is there any chance for an average-looking guy to go out with a stunningly beautiful woman?

In reality, most beautiful women are not rude or bitchy by nature; it’s just that their beauty tends to attract more people to them on a daily basis. When a beautiful woman travels somewhere, whether it’s going to work, or the coffee shop, the supermarket, or at the bar, she is constantly approached by eager males, and most of these men always want something from her, most often a phone number or date. Even men who are not actively attempting to hit on her tend to act differently in front of her and offer her more attention than usual or give special favors to her. Well, she doesn′t have enough time in the day to go out with all of these men, regardless of how nice they are to her, so she has to develop some way of screening them out. Therefore, she acts out by putting up a protective mental shield, which is a way for her to discard all of the men she is not attracted to and seek out those men who she feels have some more interesting to offer her.

Now you may be wondering, I’m not rich or look like a rock star or professional athlete, so how can I hook up with a really gorgeous woman like that?

Well, in your eyes, this woman my be incredibly attractive. However, even the most beautiful woman has insecurities and worries about how she looks. You may feel yourself trying not to stare at her butt as she walks down the street in her shapely dress or blue jeans, but she may worry that she is too fat or is gaining too much cellulite in her thighs. Or she my believe that she is too flabby in her waist. She may have female friends who think that she eats too much ice cream or comments on how her hair is too greasy or frizzy, or that she breaks out with pimples too often. She may have family members who talk about how she has dragon breath in the morning or makes monkey sounds when she laughs.

So if you want to approach a really beautiful woman and have a conversation with her, and you find yourself getting nervous when you try to say something, just remember that she is human like you are and has her not-so-pretty moments. Instead of gushing over her beauty, trying to say something corny or using
a bad pick up line, think of how she may look with food in her teeth, or slipping on the sidewalk, on sitting on the toilet, or some other embarassing or mundane situation as you approach her, and you will feel yourself becoming much less nervous around her. You can then say “hi” to her, but DON’T compliment her on her looks before you go into an extended conversation.

You’re probably wondering, why would I not compliment her on her looks or tell her how beautiful she is? Well, because she is always being complimented by other men about her beauty every day!

If you approach her like a regular person and not a desperate guy trying to go out with her, she will notice that you are not like the other men she sees. She will then wonder why you didn′t tell her how pretty she is, and this will stoke up her insecurities. And ususally when this happens, she will approach you and attempt to win your approval of her. This will surely help to build up your confidence, and before you know
it, she will be asking you for a date or your phone number.

This article is written by Patrick Huey. He has a website devoted to dating and attraction tips for men. If you would like to get more dating tips, then visit Pat’s Planet.org at: pats-planet.org pats-planet.org.

It starts every year in my office in early fall. I call it The Holiday Destination Dilemma. As in, who do we have to see this year?

The season of obligation

Do we go to your parents or my parents?

We did Thanksgiving with your parents and Christmas with my parents last year so this year we have to do Thankgiving with my parents and Christmas with your parents.

While we are visting for the holiday we have to go see Aunt Drydust and then Uncle Know-it-all.

Yikes!

Where did we get the notion that the holidays have to be a continuing series of obligatory trips to see folks with whom we would not otherwise hang out?

A radical alternative

Some people are shocked by what I am about to suggest.

Most folks eventually get a grin on their face indicating they are beginning to think that they really can decide where they want to go and how they want to spend their time.

Once you are a grown up, I believe you get to decide where and with whom you want to spend the holidays.

Even more so once you are married and have your own little familhy, kids or not.

Not everyone is going to like this. The guilt will flow in abundant supply. That’s going to have to be OK.

Take the pressure off this holiday season and go where you would like to go and spend time with those whome you choose.

Have a radically happy holiday season!

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Recently when I asked a male friend his feelings regarding women pursuing men. He made it clear that as a man he has to be the pursuer, the chaser – the hunter. This friend told me that he’s been deer hunting and women would be wise to learn how men hunt. Here is what I’ve gathered about how men hunt women. Preparation is Important – A good hunter prepares his clothing and gear long before hunting season starts. The main reason deer hunters prepare their clothing and boots is to diminish the chance of a deer catching their scent and being scared off. A man hunting a woman for a long term relationship should be prepared to court the woman once he makes the catch. To do this he: Must be free of all other romantic relationships and “friends” with benefits.Should be gainfully employed working for someone else, himself, or successfully retired from having been gainfully employed. Has got to be “handling his business,” i.e. paying his bills on time, acting responsibility toward any children he may have (paying child support, active in his children’s life). Note: If the man has a bunch of kids with a number of different women, he obviously has not been “handling his business”Must be in a position to really court you (mentally, spiritually and financially) Speed Kills – The killing we are speaking of here is not the deer either. If a hunter does not exhibit patience, he can kill an entire day of hunting and have absolutely nothing to show for his time, effort and expense. Speed can also get a hunter or fellow hunters killed. Patience is the top personality trait required for a skilled and successful hunter. So, ladies here are my tips for patience in dating: If he is serious about attaining a long term relationship, he will take his time. If he gets in a hurry to have sex with you, move in with you or marry you, watch out! He is looking to be rescued. Or, as one of my deceased aunts used to say, “He is a bow weasel looking for a home.” If a man has good intentions and things get a bit out of hand and hormones begin to rage, turn him down and send him home. If he is serious about a long term relationship, this will make him desire to impress you and work for your love even more. Silence is Paramount – In doing research about how to promote my book, I ran across a great tip. When an author is hosting a book signing and someone comes up to the table and picks up your book, the writer advised that the author should keep his or her mouth shut. More often than not, by keeping one’s mouth shut, the prospective buyer will break the silence and began to ask questions expressing an interest in the book. Give people time to get their act together, make up their minds or collect their thoughts. The same holds true when a woman meets a super guy. If a man is interested, he will let you know. You will not have to get all worked up because he didn’t call the day after you gave him your phone number. Give the man time to call you. Do not pursue him in any way. So, the next time you give a man your phone number and he does not call you, do yourself and him a favor, don’t call him and don’t become angry with or suspicious of him.The reason you may not have heard from him is because he is honestly very busy with a project at work, he may have fallen ill or an emergency may have arisen. Men tend to be focused and ignore everything but what’s right in front of them at the time. He hasn’t forgotten about you but he is focusing on something else right now.When he does contact you, keep your business, your problems and your previous relationship nightmares to yourself. Focus on and talk about the goodness in your life. Smart Deer Are Elusive – The reason deer hunters have to wait long periods of time before they even spot a deer is because smart deer are, 1) So busy attending to securing food, a place to sleep and tending to their young, they don’t have time to be flitting around needlessly in the forest and, 2) They have learned to detect danger in the area. For women this translates into: Being so busy developing and enjoying your own life that a man who meets you will think to himself, “This is one dynamic woman. If I don’t pursue and catch her, I may never meet anyone like her again. This one is a keeper.” A good man will take all the time in the world to pursue and catch a good woman.If he and what he’s offering you seems too good to be true, or your intuition is whispering (and in some cases – screaming) that something is not adding up, don’t run and grab a calculator and try and make it add up. If it feels too good to be true, it is.Please feel free to use this article in your newsletter, e-zine or blog. However, the byline below must be included in its entirety. Copyright Carmin Wharton, 2007 Author, Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces

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