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Setting aside for a minute, that if confronted with love you will have a physical wig out and that it is easy and dangerous to confuse about love and sex. In addition love requires emotional confusion.

An implication of love is that things are going to change. You are going to be, we not I and us not me. It is ours not mine. In many cases the whole context of life changes. Change isn’t easy. The psychologist will tell you that if you are going to change you have to be emotionally disturbed enough about current conditions that you psychologically embrace the change in order to adopt it. Confusion is a requirement for something new to emerge. It sets the stage for decisions and reorganization. If you are not emotionally confused then there is not any reason to change.

There is no way around. The trick of course is to see the forest for the trees. Already in the middle of an emotional hot soup as per Rule 1 and Rule 2 the task is to be calm. Recognize these things:

Emotion comes in wavesIf you don’t do anything the waves of emotion will break over youAfter the break there is a calm things flatten out The flat space is best for decisionsIt takes three or more flat spaces to make a good decision. Don’t be in a hurry. Emotional confusion is required to stimulate the decisions and reorganization required to open space for love. Welcome it as you would aspirin for a headache. Swallow it, relax and give it time to work.

There are a number of other things a novice at love should know about how love works. They can be stated as a set of rules or helpful guidelines for those who dare to accept the challenge of learning about love. Behind each rule exists several thousand years of human experience with love captured in music, art, literature and sometimes modeled in noble men and women. Because love is the most profound and desirable of human experiences it would serve each of us to search out the rules and then study the experience and wisdom behind them. It is a fundamental of love that we can only be better for having dared to explore and understand the power of love.

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Warren Cooley is a professional educator, and the writer/creator and of loveaha.com loveaha.com This unique social networking community explores the question: “what is love?” Registered members are people interested in building healthy emotional relationships based on a deeper understanding of love. Visit the LoveAha community and register free or try the “What Is Love” quiz. Get a FREE personalize email report revealing what you believe about love. loveaha.com/quiz/ loveaha.com/quiz/

Many men think that in order to attract a woman you need to listen to her and share a bit about yourself as well. Yet the truth of the matter is what she has to say and what she wants to know mean absolutely nothing.

When a man introduces himself to a woman his #1 priority should be to create a certain level of comfort in her. The great thing about making a woman comfortable is it usually means that you yourself are comfortable as well.

Now, when I say comfortable I mean relaxed and at the same time no more special than anyone else.

Once you have created that level of comfort it is important that you move on to creating attraction in her both with your words and touch.

What happens a lot of times is that men either don’t know how to create attraction in women and simply pick an arbitrary moment in the comfort stage to move in for the kiss or they know how to create attraction in women but for whatever reason choose to skip the entire comfort building process. Which leads women to find them very rude and questioning there motives.

The easiest way to create attraction in a woman is by asking her questions that cause her to remember a time when she felt attraction towards someone. Ironically another way that you will have created attraction in her is by not answering her questions and making her answer your questions instead.

When it comes to talking to attract women you have two choices. You can just talk to be talking and answering her meaningless questions that lead down the path to nowhere, or you can create comfort and attraction in a woman with your stories and question that will lead her to feel attraction towards you.

Teddy Shabba is a Dating Coach for Men and creator of

Dating, there are many thoughts that word brings about. Many of us have had both bad and good experiences with dating. Most of us can say that those experiences go back to our teenage years, when we first began dating.

As we developed into a teenager, our maturity evolves and
emerge, as does our experience with dating. Dating, the
awe
inspiring teenage ~thing~ to do, one of life~s greatest
milestones, finally we are into it, girl meets boy or boy
meets girl and suddenly we are thrown into the often
exciting world of dating!

So what is all the hoopla about? In times gone by, courting
was the olden day version of the more modern times dating.
Courting, sort of a catch me if you can type dating scenario
was a societal event. Courting was time to get to know one
another, to develop a friendship before the routine of
a relationship were thrown into the mix. These days we call
it dating, but it is a far cry from the ritualistic courting
that our ancestors were accustomed to. Or is it? Maybe
today
we are much more open and that openness has become
the big
difference in courting versus dating.

Dating is modern! Dating is hip! Dating is the definition
of hormonal overload! Unfortunately gone are the days
where
impressing them was the aim of the game; whereas today,
dating is much more complicated than that!

With many avenues of dating available to us today, dating
serves an identifiable purpose to most. Dating is about how
to find your first sexual experience, how to find that life
long partner that you have often dreamt about dating is
about life experience, an act where it could occur just the
once or could continue for months, often years. Dating could
spark romance or electrify with heartbreak.

So how do we go about attracting a date? Dating services
are
everywhere. Every roadside billboard lists web based dating
services, every evening television advertisement mentions
dating chat lines, every newspaper has a personal
questions
column, every club offers a speed dating service.

The best thing to do is to get a clear picture of what it
is you are wanting in the way of a relationship. Keep
that vision in mind and be alert to how synchronicity
brings you opportunities for the right person to show up!

The author has been through all the “normal” ways of
meeting people, including blind dates. Her motto is: “dating
should be done with your eyes wide open”, instead of
closed with your fingers crossed and hoping for the best.

She has taught many people to get clear about what they
are looking for in regards to a potential mate.

Carmella Difonzo is passionate about dating and
is the webmaster of

There is a game that children play called the GAME of LOVE. It comes in a form of a cube that has six quotations. They roll the dice and whatever quotation comes on top, they practice living it for the day.

Imagine a die that you would normally roll in a game but instead of numbers, it has quotations. And each morning, a child can roll it and “live” the quotation for the day. This is a POWERFUL tool that can be used to improve relationships.

Relationships dry because people stop caring and stop loving the other person, and basically just think of themselves. But we can learn from this GAME OF LOVE. Here are the six quotations:

1. LOVE EVERYONE. This quote makes us look outside of ourselves and becomes directed to the person in front of us. He or she may be your spouse, your teen-age son or daughter, your neighbor or office-mate. To love everyone means to think of their welfare, to be kind to them and to spread a positive feeling to everyone you meet.

2. BE THE FIRST TO LOVE – This is a bit challenging. Do not wait for the other person to make the first move. But instead be the first one to initiate something good. It can be giving the other person a glass of water if he or she is thirsty.

3. SEE JESUS IN THE OTHER PERSON – For Christians, Jesus represents the second person in the Triune God. But he represents a person, a person to love back. Jesus said in the Gospel “Whatever you do to the least of your brothers, you do it to me” Seeing Jesus in the other person will put us in a frame of mind that we cannot help but love that person, no matter how obnoxious he or she may be.

4. LOVE ONE ANOTHER – this is another way of enhancing relationships by applying the principle of RECIPROCAL LOVE.

5. MAKE YOURSELF ONE WITH THE OTHER- This means to put yourself in the shoes of the other person. For example if the other person is suffering due to the death of a loved one, be compassionate or empathize with that person. On the other hand, if your friend is rejoicing because her son won a tennis championship, rejoice with her.

6. LOVE YOUR ENEMY- This is the biggest challenge because this asks of us not to be an enemy to the other. Let’s not hit back but instead return a smile or a helping hand.

Our children are taught to play this game and roll it every morning. This has helped them very much. Do you want to improve your relationships? Let us learn from this.

TRY IT NOW. Live one quotation a day.

You’ll be surprised how GREATLY this can change your life!

Ted and Christine Segura have been involved in the topic of relationships for several years. They are seriously involved in an organization that helps couples and families in the areas of family life and enhancing relations. They can be contacted at idealfamilylife.com idealfamilylife.com

Many men are convinced that if they just find the right woman then everything will be perfect in their marriage. They either think that they are fine as they are or they think that they don’t have to change or don’t want to.

They want their wives to accept them for who they are.

Okay. Let’s take a look at who you are.

How did you prior relationships or marriages fair? If you are a widower and the reason you are looking for a new spouse is because your wonderful spouse died — you may be right – you may be a great husband and father.

For the rest of you, and I am including myself in this group, take a look at all of your relationships that failed. What is the common denominator in all those relationships? Give up?

YOU. That’s right. You are the common denominator in all your failed relationships.

That should give you a clue that there are chinks in your armor.

Let’s go through a checklist:

Do you drink alcohol to excess or use drugs?

How often?

Every day?

Every week?

Have you gotten into trouble with the law or at work or in your relationships because of this?

Do you gamble?

Do you bet on sports or other events?

How often do you go to gaming casinos?

Do you bet more than you can afford?

Can you stay within your pre-set limit?

Has gambling been a problem in your past relationships?

Do you like pornography?

Do you frequent strip clubs or cathouses?

Have you had sex outside of your marriage or relationships in the past?

Have you been serially monogamous (faithful to your partner)?

Has sex been an issue in your relationships before?

Can you and have you had reasonably frequent sex with your past partners?

Do you have problems with sex (premature ejaculation, failure to get an erection, et cetera)?

Have you had problems at work because of sex (sexual harassment, having sex with coworkers, et cetera)?

Are you financially stable?

Can you provide for your wife?

Do you have financial problems or have you had financial problems in the past?

Are you current on your bills?

Do you have savings accounts and retirement accounts?

Do you have divorce settlements or child support payments that severely restrict your lifestyle?

Are you paying child support for minor children that you have?

Are you current on your child support?

Are you actively involved in your children’s lives?

Would you consider yourself a good example to your children and other children?

Do you spend time with your children?

Do you feel guilty about your relationship with your children?

Do you do things with them that you both like to do? Are children safe with you?

Are you safety conscious?

Do you wear a seat belt?

Do you have car insurance?

Do you have life insurance?

Do you have health insurance?

Do you have disability insurance?

Do you have property insurance?

Are you a safe driver?

Do you drink and drive?

Are you in good health?

Do you exercise?

Is your weight normal?

How would you rate your eating habits?

Would you be able to complete a five-mile hike without problem?

Are you able to play with your kids without problem?

How is your job?

Are you employed?

Do you find your job rewarding?

Is your job stable?

Do you frequently find yourself daydreaming about a new job?

Do you get along with your co-workers?

Would someone else describe you as a workaholic?

Would you describe yourself as a good person?

Would you describe yourself as a moral person?

Are you trustworthy?

Are you a good friend?

Do you have a few good friends or people you can confide in?

How are your family relationships?

Do you get along well with your parents and siblings?

Is your family structure a healthy one?

Do you consider yourself a spiritual or religious person?

Do you go to church or regular spiritual gatherings?

Are you considered a member in good standing at your church or spiritual organization by others in your organization? Do you have healthy hobbies and interests?

Do you read books and like to learn new things?

Is your television viewing taking over a large portion of your life?

Does your computer time cut into your family time or your involvement with others?

Do you have volunteer organizations that you donate time to?

Are you involved in coaching or other community activities in which you give back to the community?

If you answer these questions honestly, you should have a fairly good appraisal of yourself as a human being, potential husband, father, employee, and community member.

You know your strengths and your shortcomings.

Are you willing to work on your shortcomings to become a better person?
If not, then you probably aren’t going to make a very good husband and father. The best way to get in touch with your personal shortcomings is to get involved in a relationship.

Your wife will be more than happy to point out any shortcomings you have that are in your blind spot!

You can wait until she points them out or you can work on them yourself. I recommend that you take care of them yourself.

Do you know what the secret is to finding a perfect mate? The secret is that you have to attract her to you. Not with money, trinkets, bragging, buying her gifts, or showering attention on her.

You have to attract her on a cosmic level. You have to become the kind of human being whose personal standards are so high that you are irresistible to a woman who is looking for the ideal man.

It is a law of the universe that like attracts like. You are going to attract to yourself exactly the kind of person that you are.

The best way to attract the best quality woman for you is for you to become the best person you can be.

In other words, the process of finding the perfect mate is more about you becoming the best man you can be rather than it is about finding the best woman.

If you are the perfect man, you will attract the perfect woman.
You now know your assignment – work on developing your personal strengths and minimizing your personal weaknesses.

Become the kind of man that she will leave everything that she knows and loves behind and follows half way around the world to have and to hold.

The process of wooing, winning, and wedding the woman of your dreams has been a personal quest for you.

Like the knights of old, to join the Round Table, they had to venture on a quest where they used all their talents, skills, and mental toughness and ingenuity to accomplish their quest.

The quest in itself was not the important thing. It was how the knight was transformed while on his quest. He became a better person. He was transformed into a man who could slay dragons or move mountains.

In the process of your pursuit of your ideal mate, you will be transformed. You will be become a better person, a better husband, and a better father.

Your quest to woo, win, and wed the woman of your dreams is more about you becoming the right man than it is about finding the right woman.

John has been successfully married to a Belarussian wife for over five years. He has traveled extensively through Russia and other CIS countries. He will tell you why you should consider Russian women, how to meet them, how to bring your special woman home, and how to survive married life.
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So you want to enjoy great sex and you want your partner to think of you as a great lover? Well the good news is that anyone can improve their sex life in the bedroom and the ten tips enclosed will help you and your partner enjoys great sex.

Let’s look at them.

1. Respect

Show your partner respect. It’s a known fact that women need much more mental stimulation to enjoy great sex than men and they need to be relaxed and feel desired and wanted.

So, be a considerate lover and make your partner feel beautiful and wanted. They will then relax and let themselves go which is the key for them to enjoy the experience to its fullest.

2. Foreplay

There are many erogenous zones and it is important to explore them all not just the obvious ones! Here we will give you just 3 examples, but there are more that you can target.

The neck – The nape of the neck is one of the best to target and will have your partner moaning with pleasure and wanting more so target it quickly.

The buttocks – What women is not sensitive about her behind? Target it and tell her it’s beautiful, not only is it a physical turn on, it’s a mental turn on to and women love having their bottom complimented.

The inner thighs - Highly sensitive and a great area to tease as your partner will be expectant of what happens next!

3. Best Sexual Positions

The best sexual positions are not the most complicated in fact, if you read the great works of erotic literature such as the perfumed garden or the Karma Sutra, you will see there are really 4 positions that give the maximum in satisfaction and you don’t have to be an Olympic athlete to do them.

We have written about them frequently, they worked thousands of years ago and still work today – great sexual positions don’t go out of fashion!

4. Control Your orgasm and last longer

One of the main problems men have is they come too quickly and this leaves their partner unsatisfied. However, there is one trick that you can learn that will help you control your climax and it is simply this:

SLOW DOWN YOUR BREATHING

Breathing quickens and as it does so you climax, but by slowing your breathing down you are fooling your body you are not ready to come and delaying the act.

We have written on techniques for doing this in other articles so look them up and learn the techniques their guaranteed to work.

5. Communication and complements

Sex is communication and should not be done in silence.

By complimenting and making noise not only can you learn about what your partner likes and doesn’t, you can compliment and express the pleasure you are having to. The spoken word adds a great deal too great sex, so make noise and communicate!

6. Sensuality & Variety

You can enjoy great sex by setting a mood and adding plenty of variety. For example you can add in some sensual oils to appeal to the senses or you can add some massage in before sex. Setting a mood helps relax you both and appeals to the mind which then ensures that the physical act is enjoyed even more.

So there you have it, ten tips that can help you enjoy better sex or even great sex with your partner – have fun.

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Online dating can be fun but you must not neglect safety and common sense. If the internet is new to you or you have not used it very often then you must firstly protect your computer. You need to have a firewall and an anti-virus protection programme (for example Norton). These will help to protect you from hackers and viruses.

In order to protect yourself you should just let common sense prevail. Always use email only and do not give out your phone number to the first people you speak to you. Develop a relationship by email first. Make sure you use a reputable dating site, ask friends and co-workers of any they have used. At the end of this article is an example of one you can look at and search around without having to pay (you only pay a small fee if interested in contacting someone).

If you then find someone who you like and would like to meet then again be sensible. You need to protect yourself and your family. Remember the person who you are chatting to or maybe even falling for; may not be who they say they are. Although we all like to think everyone is open and honest there are people who use other people’s profiles and pictures; they end up being who you want them to be instead of who they are. Do not invite anyone to your home, nor give them your address. If you feel that you have had enough talking on email and maybe on an instant message service and you would like to talk by phone then either ask for their telephone number (this will allow you to decide if and when you call them and it provides you with a genuine point of contact) or if you want to give them your number, a mobile number is better as it is easier to change if required. If you then want to arrange to meet them please arrange to meet someone public and with lots of people around. It is always a good idea to take someone else with you but if this is not possible then ALWAYS tell someone else where you are going and who you are meeting. Finally if you have children I think it is better not to involve them initially then no-one gets worried or hurt if the date does not go well and it turns into a one off meeting.

Sometimes perseverance is needed at other times you find the perfect person first time. Good luck, be careful but enjoy.

Jason Hobbs Runs an cyberlove.mylovewebsite.com Online Dating Agency: Cyberlove Dating
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A common mistake guys make is to ignore the opportunities to meet women in their every day lives. These men think they have to go to someplace *special* to meet women.

The truth is women are all around you. If you look closely during your daily activities, you′ll discover there are plenty of chances to engage interesting women in conversations.

In this article, you’ll learn about 6 “every day” places where you can meet women.

1- Parties

Parties are an excellent place to meet women.

Even if you’re an older guy, these events are great for meeting new people and mingling with old friends. What’s great about parties is they provide a relaxed atmosphere to approach and engage women in conversations.

But what if you don’t have friends who host parties?

It’s simple…host one of your own!

What you can do is invite all your friends and request they bring a few extra people. Since there will be a lot of new women at the party, you’ll have plenty of opportunities to engage them in conversations.

2- Social Circle

Similar to parties you can increase your chances of meeting women just from your social contacts. It’s been said the most common way men meet their wife or girlfriend is through their social contacts.

So odds are you’ll have a great chance to meet a woman from your friends and family.

Now in order to take advantage of your social contacts, you should start organizing different events and become the coordinator for fun times. By doing this, you′ll expand your circle and will meet a lot of women.

3- Local Playground

If you’re a single dad, the local playground is an excellent place to meet women.

What you should realize is even a woman is there with a kid, it doesn’t mean she’s married or in a relationship. A lot of times you’ll find single mothers, nannies, or relatives at a local playground.

What you could do is go there with your kid and casually engage women in conversations. Then from there allow the discussion to evolve.

Now one thing you should remember is to NEVEY go to a local playground by yourself. If you’re lurking around on your own, you’ll be perceived as a pervert or child molester.

So don′t go there if you don′t have a kid.

4- Church

Yes…churches are an incredible place to meet women.

What’s great about religious places is you’ll meet women who are morally in line with their lives. Furthermore since they regularly attend church, the women here have faced a lot of their inner demons and have managed to overcome their problems.

Now remember, a regular churchgoer can still be a fun and sexual person. These women like to have a good like normal people. The only difference is they don’t live the hedonistic life style you′ll find from many other women.

5- Subways and Trains

A lot of guys work in major cities and spend hours each week going to and from their place of employment. While other men use this time to work or read, YOU can use it as an opportunity to meet women.

A great technique is to scan the train or subway for women who are reading a book you’re familiar with. Then just open the conversation discussing that book and build the conversation towards setting up a date.

6- Lunch or Happy Hours Near Work

If you work in a corporate park or commercial area, you’ll find lots of establishments which offer special lunch or happy hour events. What’s great is these places offer an opportunity to mingle with co-workers and meet women from other local businesses.

Now this type of atmosphere is different from the normal bar scene because people are there to unwind, and will be more open to conversations.

During your normal daily routine you have lots of chances to meet different women. If you pay attention to your surroundings, you′ll discover there’s lot of interesting women who are open to conversations and dates.

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